Meeting a family lawyer for the first time can feel overwhelming, especially during what may already be a challenging period in your life. Proper preparation can help you make the most of this important consultation. This guide will help you understand exactly what you need to do before, during, and after your initial appointment with Walkden Law or any other family lawyer in Australia.
Key Takeaways
- Prepare a clear timeline of events, gather relevant documents, and identify your goals before the meeting
- Expect to discuss your situation, legal options, and costs during the initial consultation
- Come ready with specific questions and consider bringing a support person if helpful
- Follow up by reviewing advice received and collecting any additional requested information
Before the Meeting
Clarify Your Goals
Before meeting your family lawyer, identify what outcomes you’re hoping to achieve. Are you seeking advice about parenting arrangements? Property division? Child support? Protection orders? Having clarity about your objectives helps your lawyer provide targeted advice from the start.
Prepare a Concise Timeline
Create a chronological outline of key events related to your situation. Include important dates such as:
- Date of marriage or beginning of de facto relationship
- Date of separation
- Birth dates of children
- Dates of significant incidents or changes in living arrangements
- Dates of any court orders, police reports, or intervention orders
Gather Key Documents
Bringing the right paperwork to your first meeting can save time and help your lawyer understand your situation quickly. Depending on your circumstances, consider bringing:
“Being well-prepared for your first meeting not only maximises our time together but also helps us provide you with the most accurate advice possible from the outset.” – Walkden Law
Essential documents may include:
- Personal identification (driver licence, passport)
- Marriage or relationship certificates
- Children’s birth certificates
- Financial records (bank statements, payslips, tax returns)
- Property information (titles, mortgage statements, valuations)
- Superannuation statements and investment records
- Any existing court orders or family violence reports
Prepare a List of Questions
Write down specific questions about:
- The legal process and potential pathways for your case
- Likely timeframes for resolution
- How costs are calculated and billed
- Communication methods and frequency
- Alternative dispute resolution options
Decide Who Will Attend
Consider whether you’d like to bring a support person to your meeting. Many lawyers are happy to accommodate this, but it’s best to check their policy beforehand. If English isn’t your first language, ask about interpreter services.
What to Expect at the First Meeting
Meeting Format and Duration
Initial consultations typically last 60-90 minutes. Most family lawyers offer in-person, phone, or video conference options. Confirm the format when booking your appointment, and arrive or log in 10 minutes early.
Intake and Background Questions
Your lawyer will need to understand your family situation. Be prepared to discuss:
- Details of your relationship history
- Information about any children involved
- Current living and financial arrangements
- Any safety concerns or urgent issues
Legal Confidentiality
The information you share with your lawyer is protected by legal professional privilege. Your lawyer should explain how your information will be handled and stored, giving you confidence to speak openly about your situation.
Initial Legal Assessment
Based on your information, your lawyer will outline possible legal pathways and immediate options. This might include court proceedings, mediation, collaborative practice, or negotiation strategies.
Costs Discussion
Your lawyer should clearly explain their fee structure, provide a costs agreement, and give estimates for the next steps. Ask about:
- Hourly rates vs. fixed fees
- Retainer requirements
- Billing frequency and payment options
- Options for reducing costs
Practical Tips for the Meeting
Presenting Information Clearly
Keep your explanations factual and chronological. Avoid rambling or focusing too much on emotions. Where possible, provide specific dates, amounts and copies of documents rather than general statements.
Managing Sensitive Topics
Family law matters often involve emotionally charged issues. It’s perfectly okay to:
- Take breaks if you feel overwhelmed
- Bring a trusted support person
- Ask for clarification if you don’t understand something
- Request to discuss certain topics at a follow-up meeting
Note-taking and Follow-up
Take notes during your meeting or ask if you can record the conversation (always with permission). Request a written summary of advice and next steps. Before leaving, confirm any actions you need to take before your next contact.
After the Meeting
Review the Advice
Take time to review any documents provided, including the costs agreement and action plan. If anything is unclear, contact your lawyer for clarification.
Collect Further Evidence
Your lawyer may have requested additional information. Gather these documents promptly to avoid delays in your matter.
Consider Your Options
Based on the advice received, decide on your next steps. This might involve proceeding with the suggested legal strategy, seeking a second opinion, or trying mediation before formal legal proceedings.
Conclusion
The success of your family law matter often depends on how well you prepare for and engage with the legal process. By following the steps outlined in this guide, you’ll be well-positioned to make the most of your first meeting with a family lawyer. Remember that Walkden Law and other quality family law firms are there to guide you through this process with expertise and support. With proper preparation, you can approach your first meeting with confidence and clarity about the path forward.
