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After you got your heart broken and you have been disappointed you might not feel so motivated to start dating again, but we all know how important it is to feel loved and accepted by someone else. So, eventually, you are going to want to start looking for someone that will make you feel these amazing thrills that love gives us. A long and exhausting divorce may leave you a little bit confused about how to start going out for dates again and let new people enter your life. Check this article to find some guidance in this scary process.
1. Ready or not?
No matter what anyone tells you, you need to realize that there is no need to rush if you think you are not ready to go out there again. A divorce can cause a serious damage to your emotional and psychological health, so take your time and figure it out how to stand on your own two feet again. You need to be at peace with all your feelings and thoughts before you allow some new know you and fall in love with you.
2. Know your intentions
Before you say “yes” to the person that just asked you out, make sure you know exactly what you want. Do you want just a nice dinner out or are you looking for a serious relationship? You should better decide right from the beginning and be clear about it to make sure that your date has the same intentions as you if you do not want to waste your time with dates that will lead nowhere.
3. Be yourself!
The lack of self-confidence might stop you from feeling comfortable with letting someone to know you or you might be tempted to behave and look like someone you are not and that is such a pity. Just be yourself, no need to stress whether your date is going to accept you just as you are or not. If they do not see how amazing you are and they chose to not go for a second date, trust me you lost nothing, there is nothing wrong with you, he or she was just not the one for you and you have to keep moving forward.
4. Don’t feel guilty
Most of the divorced parents tend to let their kids stop them from going out for dates. There is no reason for you to feel guilty because you want to find someone new that will make you happy. Everyone knows that you love your kids and they mean the world to you, but going out for dates does not mean that this will destroy their happiness. Moreover, you need to realize that they love you back as much as you love them, so they also want to see you smiling all the time.
5. Get online
If you lock yourself inside the house there is likely no chance to meet someone that will ask you out for a date. You might be busy and do not have time to wander around the city all day long, but there is no excuse for not giving people the chance to see you online. There are many dating websites with many single people that are also looking for someone to share their love with. Make a profile and start chatting with them. Be asked or ask for a date and you will eventually find the right one.
6. Do your research
A disappointment such as a divorce surely lead to some trust issues and that might be one of your concerns when it comes to straining dating again. But thanks to the internet these days, you can do some research before to see whom exactly you are going to meet on the date you have planned. There are many ways to see the background of someone with social media and websites that have a people search section where you can even find if there are any civil or lawsuit records. Knowing more information about your date will keep you safe and will make you feel more confident.
7. Don’t talk about your ex
Talking too much about your ex could really ruin the date and give the other person the impression that you are still not over your ex-husband or wife and you might end up talking alone on the table. After all, you went to that date to get to know the person in front of you not to tell your ex’s story. You may mention him or her just as a reason why you are single at the moment but I assure your date is not interested to hear any more details. You have so many other things to ask and talk about with your date. Your ex is an ex for a reason!
8. Don’t wait for miracles to happen
No prince charming will come knocking on your door to give you a happily ever after in a faraway palace. So, forget the romantic love stories you saw in movies because they are way too far from the reality. Get out of the house, surround yourself with your friends and loved ones and go out for dinners, theatre plays, charity events, walks in the park, and even clubbing if you feel like dancing. Do not allow your bad mood to make you become an antisocial person. Get out in the world to meet new people and to keep your mood up.
9. Try new experiences and have fun
It might happen that the first date you have to be with the right one but at the same time no need to start panicking if it is not. Do not get demotivated and keep searching for the person that you will spend more than just a couple of hours at a restaurant with. In the meantime, enjoy every new experience that you have with anyone that you meet because surely you will have something to learn every time you meet somebody new.