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You don’t sign up for a divorce when you get married. It’s very painful. But it’s taught me a great deal about myself.
I am absolutely sure that a divorce is a deal between two people. Only a couple decides on what to do with their relations. Anyway, both spouses are guilty, if something happens in their family, take it or leave it! In my family, we used to have a wonderful relationship with my husband till the time when he decided to choose his friends than me. He spent so much time with his buddies that I was seriously thinking that he was a gay. Thank God, no, but that fact that he was not interested in me as in the personality, became really vivid. I was trying to upgrade his interest to me, but I failed. So, the only one way to save the family was to ask him directly whether he still loved me or not! He answered “no”! It was the last drop in my patience….I took my clothes and disappeared in the evening as if I had never existed in his life. We had no children, so there could be no arguments about the child custody or, for instance, an alimony. I had a well-paid job as well, so I did not need to take his money. It was pretty disgusting to me. As a consequence, the divorce process began.
The First Step to the Divorce
The first step to the divorce process is, as usual, to choose a type of the marriage termination itself. It can be a huge variety of divorce kinds. For example, the divorces can be as follows:
- An Uncontested Divorce
- A Contested Divorce
- A dissolution of Marriage
- A Default Divorce
- A No-Fault Divorce
- The Same-Sex Divorce
- The Legal Separation
- An Annulment of Marriage
As you can see, a huge variety of the divorces make the process so complicated. Let’s see together, what is the main difference between the most important divorce types. There are two the most important and commonly applied types of the divorce: an Uncontested one and a Contested one. The main difference between them is that the Uncontested Divorce is rather simple. A couple does not need to hire an attorney or go to the trial case. They both understand that their marriage is over, so they do not want to spend time on the war of words or some arguments. The Uncontested Divorce means that the process is less expensive and time-consuming. For example, we with my ex-husband spent at least $2000 on the whole divorce process. As opposed to the Uncontested Divorce, the Contested Divorce is rather a difficult proceeding. Unfortunately, the spouses cannot agree with each other, moreover, the couple can have a serious claim for the marital property, or a child custody/visitation. It implies additional problems as well. The Uncontested Divorce is agreed by both spouses, while the Contested Divorce is only the misconceptions that spouses have to solve. To tell you the truth, I googled in the search to find the best site for the preparation of the papers and forms online and found a really sad statistics that each tenth couple has the Contested Divorce, nevertheless, California is considered to be a No-Fault Divorce. So, the first step to the free life was done when we together with my husband signed and filled in the Petition for the Dissolution of Marriage. This document means that the couple is truly ready for the crucial changes in their life.
File for Divorce
To file for divorce, you need to fill in the Petition that I previously told you about. We did it. The next step was to find other papers and forms for the divorce process. As our case was an Uncontested one, we did need a special packet of the documents, that is standard and full. We did not have a problem with how to fill in the documents. Everything was solved in advance. We have compared the prices for the assistance of the lawyer to prepare the documents for the court and the online preparation of the papers. The difference was ugly obvious. We saved almost $4000, and it was cool! With the online preparation of the forms you do not need to worry that something can be wrong, the guys are professionals, so there is no mistake or inaccuracy. Our papers were approved by the Superior Family Court from the first time, and it was also incredible because we did not have to do the same task twice. The guys from the online service made our documents in 1 day, and for $149. That was a miracle. I think, God helped me to get rid of my ex-husband as soon as possible.
As it is stipulated by the California legislation, the couple should wait a 60-days period to see the pros and cons of the divorce once again. Fortunately, we did not have such a period because we were as hard as nuts and were ready to terminate our family life. Especially my husband. He was so happy that I could only imagine, how joyful could he be if I told him that I was simply dying or something like that. Hate him! Ok, so we waited for a term of 25 days, by the way, such a term can be different regarding your case, county court, and the local laws. After the waiting period, we came to the Superior Court to get a Final Judgment. The Judge asked as if we were still ready to sign the Marriage Dissolution Certificate. Of course, we were. In a half of the hour, we got so desired Certificate of the Divorce and came away from the Court. Wheee!
Well then, we finally solved all our problems and began a new life. In three years I married again a man of my dreams, so forgot about those awful times when everything was so depressing that it was a pretty good deal to terminate all those inconveniences. Nowadays, I am happy that I can remember those days with a smile, but my duty was to warn you about the difficulties of such a nerves-consuming process as a divorce. I believe that everything will be the best, so be strong and believe in kindness!